What People Are Saying

Reactions to Baffled By Love

“Psychotherapist Kahn (founder, Womencare Counseling & Training Ctr.), who specializes in the treatment of survivors of childhood abuse, relates the stories of her clients whose understanding of love was twisted by the mistreatment of those who were supposed to love and protect them. An unsettling yet compelling work on the issue of childhood sexual abuse that will be valuable for survivors and their loved ones as well as health-care professionals.”
-Library Journal


“Kahn is a very proactive trauma therapist who has spent decades working with people who suffered childhood abuse at the hands of those who were supposed to love and care for them. This complex subject can be difficult to read about, and the actions of the abusers are shocking, but Kahn navigates her topic with grace and sensitivity. Her narrative is mellifluous and never gratuitous as she expertly weaves together her own difficult family history with the stories of strikingly different women who share the burden of abuse. Kahn reveals the staggering prevalence of childhood sexual and physical trauma and aims to shed light on shame and pain that is too often hidden. But the focus of her book isn’t explicitly on the horrors and challenges facing survivors of childhood abuse. Rather, the steadfast theme is love, as Kahn provides insights into how this transcendent emotion shapes our lives and into how learning to love is empowering. Kahn’s in-depth look at childhood trauma is expert, caring, informative, and affecting.” — Patricia Smith


“A sensitive and wise book. Baffled by Love is about the healing power of sharing, exploring and finding words for one’s self… A deeply comforting book.” —Bessel van der Kolk, MD, author of the New York Times Science Bestseller The Body Keeps the Score


“I feel in my bones that this is a work of oceanic empathy and insight and importance―a highly personal yet deeply professional major book that has the potential to shape many lives.” —Thomas French, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of Juniper and Zoo Story


“Laurie Kahn bravely challenges the paralyzing taboos around love and psychotherapy. Her extraordinary achievement rests on wise insights, tender honesty, eloquent prose, and perhaps most of all, on the well-timed telling of her own compelling struggles with betrayal and love.” —Jennifer Freyd, PhD, author of the award-winning book Betrayal Trauma:  The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse


“This is a love story and a beautiful one. I would recommend it to everyone.” —Don Catherall, PhD, author of Emotional Safety: Viewing Couples Through the Lens of Affect


“Baffled by Love is a powerful collection of beautifully wrought stories of the psychotherapy of traumatic experience. Laurie Kahn is a gifted clinician who listens to her patients with both her head and her heart. She has much to teach newly hatched and seasoned clinicians”
–Richard A. Chefetz, M.D. Past president of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation. He is the recipient of ISSTD’s Pierre Janet Writing Award for his book Intensive Psychotherapy for Persistent Dissociative Processes